Anonymous asked: Just a quick one, you mentioned you and your wife were not having sex as much and were contemplating a three-way. How long have you been married and has your sex life tapered off or did you just hit a low period? Going through the same thing myself.

We’ve been married just over a year and a half now. We’ve been together for over 5 years, though. In response to your question: it’s a bit of both. Sex tapered off awhile back but we’ve also been hitting low periods in the last year or more. This is mostly due to our financial and employment situations (both of which suck at the moment and have for awhile). Basically, it’s hard to want to put the effort in to fuck on days that we don’t really want to roll out of bed and face the world. 

What sometimes works for us—and maybe it will work for you too if you’re looking to get down—is to have a special night. Just have a nice meal, watch a sexy movie, massages, or whatever works to get the both of you going. 

The tapering off I think is an inevitability. It’s not so much from lack of interest but from increased access. Sure you want to fuck now but he/she’s still going to be there in an hour or a day or a week or a month. It doesn’t feel as urgent and so you’re just not as motivated to jump in there. That’s my theory anyway.